They have to.
Many times it is what is expected of them, by either themselves or by those whom they are surrounded by.
One friend in particular that I grew up with was stereotyped in this fashion. Eventually he just acted like he thought people expected him to act. Deep down inside, he was a very nice guy... but only a few people actually knew this. I was one of the lucky ones. I knew it.
Maybe it is a guy thing... since it is usually guys that shellac on this tough exterior.
If that is the case, I am so glad I am a girl! Girls don't have to act all tough, and the tough guys can show their softer side to me. I am so lucky to see that side of so many great guys!
Tonight while out to dinner with my little seven year old friend, who is a boy, not to be confused with a boyfriend as he always clearly explains to me, I asked him for some examples of a tough exterior and a soft interior. He came up with melons, elephants and a few more great examples.
Why am I thinking about this subject tonight?
It is because I work with a group of awesome, very tough guys. Ironworkers. They have to be tough as nails to do what they do. Thank goodness they are that tough. But I get to see their sweet, kind, and generous side, too. I get the best of both worlds.
Today I told them all that I love them all. And I do. Of course, I also admitted to being fickle, but when you are surrounded by a bunch of unique, tough, sweet guys, you can easily become fickle!